Suck it, NOM!

The National Organization for Marriage was one of the largest single donors to California’s Proposition 8, which banned same-sex marriage in November. Its offices are across the street from my university, at 20 Nassau St.—that’s here:

So some of us Princeton students had a protest today, to protest NOM and its close connections with Princeton: the president of NOM’s board is a Princeton politics professor, Robert George. We made masks with his face on them to make light of the fact that his connections are actually leading folks like Frank Rich to draw an implicit connection between Princeton and NOM:

We also made signs that mock NOM’s bigoted rhetoric:

And some that were just entertaining:

Here I am with a sign:

Basically, we had a dance party—with many renditions of “It’s Raining Men”!:

(Thanks to Rocky R. for the photos! We also received coverage in the Daily Princetonian.)

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As the ACLU might say, the solution to speech is more speech. NOM has the constitutional right to take up residence right across the street from where I live and tell me I shouldn’t have the right to marry whomever I want. I mean that seriously—I don’t for an instant want to silence their speech. But that doesn’t mean the rest of Princeton can let their hateful beliefs pass unremarked, so we went out to Nassau Street on a nice day dressed in funny costumes and masks and had a dance party with sarcastic signs. We had fun, and we spoke out for something we believe in deeply.

God I love this country.

I give you Joe the Plumber, asserting his knowledge of LGBT terminology:

Yeah, I know, Joe the Plumber is so passé, and we shouldn’t be giving him the time of day, but I can’t resist reprinting this quote from his interview with evangelical Christianity Today (h/t Alex Koppelman):

At a state level, [same-sex marriage is] up to them. I don’t want it to be a federal thing. I personally still think it’s wrong. People don’t understand the dictionary — it’s called queer. Queer means strange and unusual. It’s not like a slur, like you would call a white person a honky or something like that. You know, God is pretty explicit in what we’re supposed to do — what man and woman are for. Now, at the same time, we’re supposed to love everybody and accept people, and preach against the sins. I’ve had some friends that are actually homosexual. And, I mean, they know where I stand, and they know that I wouldn’t have them anywhere near my children. But at the same time, they’re people, and they’re going to do their thing.

Mr. the Plumber, I think it’s you who doesn’t understand the dictionary. I give you the OED:

Although originally chiefly derogatory (and still widely considered offensive, esp. when used by heterosexual people), from the late 1980s it began to be used as a neutral or positive term (originally of self-reference, by some homosexuals; cf. QUEER NATION n.) in place of gay or homosexual, without regard to, or in implicit denial of, its negative connotations. In some academic contexts it is the preferred adjective in the study of issues relating to homosexuality (cf. queer theory n. at Special uses 2); it is also sometimes used of sexual lifestyles that do not conform to conventional heterosexual behaviour, such as bisexuality or transgenderism. [emphasis mine]

I know it’s somewhat pointless of me to point out that Joe the Plumber is stupid. We all knew that. But the thing is that he’s getting those opinions from somewhere, and folks like Christianity Today are giving him the time of day. If there are crazy people saying crazy homophobic things out there, we can write them off as loonies, but we still have to be louder.

The quote of the day today doesn’t come from my schoolwork.

Today it is from a NYT blog post, called “Two Little Boys.” It is about Carl Walker-Hoover and Jaheem Herrera, two 11-year-old boys who killed themselves in the past two weeks because of the homophobic bullying they were subject to at school:

We, as a society, should be ashamed. The bodies of these children lay at our feet. The toxic intolerance of homophobic adults has spilled over into the minds of pre-sexual children, placing undue pressure on the frailest of shoulders. This pressure is particularly acute among young boys who are forced to conform to a perilously narrow concept of masculinity. Or else.

Do you hear that, Brandon McGinley, Daily Princetonian columnist? Do you hear that, NOM? Do you hear that, Anscombe? We adults can shrug our shoulders, and brush off silly ads that tell us the storm is coming. We can make our communities that don’t offer admittance to those who tell us we are second-class citizens. But we still can’t stop; we can’t live in our bubble. We need to make the world safe for all the little kids of the future. It’s our duty to ensure that this doesn’t happen again.

I spent a couple months this semester trying to understand people like the members of the Anscombe Society. I’ve tried to get inside their heads, see their points of view, talk to them about who they are and why they are that way. But I’ve given up, and now I’ve decided I’m going to fight. There’s no time to try to understand a point of view that wants to deny civil rights to people who are different, when little kids are dying because society is telling 11-year-olds that it’s okay to make fun of people by calling them “gay” or “fag” or “queer” or “dyke” or “homo.”

I know that it’s sometimes considered short-sighted or naïve to develop a political worldview based on a single issue. I know that I’m driving myself crazy, coming to lunch every day filled with anger at something homophobic that I’ve read in the news or that’s happened on campus. But if there’s anything I can do, and that we all can do, it’s to stand up, speak out, and fight back. I don’t want to let a single homophobic comment stand without offering up something in opposition. I don’t want any prospective Princeton students to read the Prince and think this is not a safe place to be queer, and I certainly don’t want another 11-year-old boy to kill himself because the pressure of his peers’ homophobic taunts is too great.

This is something we all can do together. We need to make change. Before another kid is robbed of a future.

Amazon.com Is Homophobic, and the Media Don’t Notice

I know it’s Sunday, but you would have thought that this would be getting more attention:

The number one word being used over and over on Twitter at this moment is “AmazonFail.”

Why?

Apparently, users are angry about a perceived anti-gay policy that removes lesbian, gay, bi-sexual and transgender books from appearing in sales rankings.

Author Mark Probst writes on his blog that two days ago, “mysteriously, the sales rankings disappeared from two newly-released high profile gay romance books: ‘Transgressions’ by Erastes and ‘False Colors’ by Alex Beecroft. Everybody was perplexed. Was it a glitch of some sort? The very next day HUNDREDS of gay and lesbian books simultaneously lost their sales rankings, including my book ‘The Filly.'”

That’s right: this story broke on private blogs and on Twitter. Twitter. Seriously. The only mainstream media outlet that I have seen to cover this story so far is the Seattle Post-Intelligencer, quoted above. Yes, that Seattle Post-Intelligencer, the one that had to stop publishing in print because it’s in dire financial straits.

Amazon now considers “adult”: Brokeback Mountain; The Well of Loneliness; Foucault’s History of Sexuality; books by EM Forster, Edmund White, Quentin Crisp, and the entire catalogue of de Sade; biographies of gay icons like Oscar Wilde and Harvey Milk; and a number of books about coming out and young-adult sex education and things like that. It does not consider “adult”: Tropic of Cancer, Naked Lunch, and Playboy: the Complete Centerfolds, among other things. See a pattern?

Apparently The Well of Loneliness, which is like the most monotonously chaste book about a lesbian relationship that I’ve ever read, is more obscene than Naked Lunch, which includes the famously and disturbingly graphic depiction of autoerotic asphyxiation in the vignette entitled “AJ’s Annual Party.” I totally thought we as a culture were over this, generally speaking. I thought the era of obscene publications ended with the “Howl” trial, with the founding of Grove Press. Apparently not.

My one-track mind where sexuality issues are concerned notwithstanding, I’m pretty sure this is a big issue. Amazon is a major commercial entity and certainly a powerful force in the life of any college student in the habit of purchasing school books. If it considers Heather Has Two Mommies risqué, what hope have we for, say, conservative policy-makers in Washington?

There’s a petition in protest of the new Amazon policy that I highly recommend you sign. I know that until Amazon changes this policy, and re-establishes LGBT literature in the sales rankings, I’ll be buying my books elsewhere.

UPDATE: Amazon says it was a software glitch. To quote Sara Eileen: “That’s a weird-ass glitch, Amazon.”

Anachronisms

I am a sucker for anachronism. It probably started back in the days when I was a middle-school kid who was convinced I should have been born in the 18th century, so that I could defend Bonnie Prince Charlie to the death. Or something like that. (It’s a long story.) But now I appreciate music from 30 or 40 years ago, and political sentiments from about the same era. I relish anything that seems at odds with 2009, with the Internet, with jaded cynicism, with the Princeton Organization Kid. And that’s why I’m writing about the band that was at Terrace last night.

Terrace is an eating club, and incidentally the only one in which I will voluntarily set foot. It is also known for its regular high-quality live music, and because I am lame and because most of the bands I like are dead (see previous paragraph), it’s basically the only place I usually see live music. Last night, though, the band was something else. It was playing punk music, which I suppose is not a particularly unusual thing for a band to do; however, it was also from London (which is less usual—at least, in Princeton, and not in London), and its singer/frontman looked to be in his fifties and not quite aware of it. He was wearing ripped jeans, a be-safety-pinned black t-shirt, and glitter-festooned sneakers that would have been quite chic in the early ’80s. Most of the time, he sort of yell-chanted songs; sometimes he played the drums; sometimes he made pronouncements about the evils of religion and George W. Bush (a few people in the audience yelled “He’s gone, man!” but the frontman appeared unaware of the past six months’ events); at one point he walked through the crowd on the dancefloor holding a pair of drumsticks in front of him like a cross—trying to cast out demons, perhaps? It was unclear. He would frequently preface a song by saying “I wrote this in 1978.” He jumped up and down with an energy and agility that 50-something-year-old men aren’t supposed to have. I’m pretty sure he had more in his system than the two beer bottles standing by the amps. But he was fantastic! He was so infectiously energetic! He made me want to jump up and down and yell “Down with Thatcher!” And that was the best bit. I feel like, as someone born in 1990, I really missed my opportunity to be furious at an evil neoconservative government. I do like punk music, in general, and I find it sad and disappointing that I missed the historical era when it would have been relevant.

The other kids at Terrace though the guy was entertaining, but I don’t think they really got him. They turned to their friends, half-laughing. “What’s he doing?” they asked when he exorcised the crowd with drumsticks. One drunk-seeming kid went up to him and criticized him for declaring that “Absolute power corrupts absolutely” without attributing the quotation. “Only at Princeton,” I thought. But I really felt sorry for him. People are angry at the government and the establishment now in such different ways than they were in the ’80s, and particularly at Princeton. I think people in the audience liked him because he was outlandish, or because they were drunk—not because they really sympathized with his message. Even I felt uncomfortable to hear him criticize religion—at Princeton, that’s not the sort of controversial ground you tread on.

I was thinking about this in terms of reading I was doing for class about the role of the media in both the first Gulf War and the invasion of Iraq. It was deeply weird to read a historical account of the invasion of Iraq, because I conceive of it as a current event. Six years isn’t so long ago. I remember the day we had a debate in my 8th-grade history class about whether it was right to invade Iraq. I remember how I was the only kid saying that we didn’t know whether Saddam Hussein really did have weapons of mass destruction. I remember how there were other kids in the class who thought that, but that they wouldn’t speak up, and I had to take on all the Bush supporters by myself. To my mind, we still know so little about the events and decisions surrounding the wars we’re now engaged in—not to mention the fact that we’re still engaged in them. How can we historicize them?

Maybe this is how my high-school history teacher, a Vietnam vet, felt when we learned about Vietnam in class. Maybe this is how my mom feels, when anyone talks about the DNCs and election night results of the ’70s and ’80s that she remembers watching on TV. And maybe this gets back to what the leader of the band at Terrace last night was doing, when he assumed what seemed to me to be such an anachronistic pose. If I may put words into his mouth for a moment, as far as he is concerned, the threat of Thatcherism isn’t over. Bush II was a convenient vehicle for that ire as well. But he’s a bit lost at present for a figurehead upon whom he can thrust his dissatisfaction with the establishment. His feelings are no less real. But he’s now forced to frame them historically, not in terms of current events. That’s got to be disorienting.

Maybe my temptation is to view anachronism as quaint, sort of like one of those living history museums, just for 20th-century social alienation instead of colonial America. But on a more intellectual level, I think there’s something to be said for not relegating, say, anti-Thatcher sentiment to history entirely. As I think we learned from the Bush presidency, the same political issues, the same sentiments, the same ideological battles come up again. And again. And again. We need to be keeping feelings of outrage on the forefront of our minds, because if we don’t, there’s a very real chance that we won’t notice when the next deeply objectionable thing happens. I know that I want to study and teach history in part so that we can learn from our mistakes—but while doing that, we still need to be aware that history isn’t a done deal. Everything that’s going to happen in the next week’s news cycle is eventually going to be history. What will we remember when it comes to make decisions based on its lessons?

Why Are You [not a] Liberal?

My colleague Daniel has great post up about why he considers himself a liberal, why that political definition represents him and his values. And I was going to do the same… except I don’t always consider myself a liberal. I think I would more accurately call myself a radical.

I had a relevant discussion with someone on Monday night, while talking about our relationship with existing social structures—and specifically the institution of marriage. He said he wants to see the institution expanded to include same-sex couples. I said I want to tear the fucking thing down. To me, this is representative of what radicalism is, whether a right-wing or a left-wing radicalism. It’s about rebuilding society from the bottom up, and constantly asking questions about its most fundamental aspects. It’s about not being satisfied.

Perhaps this is just a handy excuse, but I don’t think that the fact that I’m not out in the streets every day, that I’m not a member of a communist organization or any other “revolutionary” group, renders me less a radical. I think it’s more about the questions I’m asking, and my personal utopia. About a general resistance to compromise (to which I suppose you can ascribe either a good or a bad connotation).

Well, anyway. I certainly don’t think liberal is a dirty word, but I do think I’m a little “too extreme” to use it.

Giving the Westboro Baptist Church the Time of Day

I know it’s stupid to give any attention to these anti-gay nutters so far outside the mainstream that they make the religious right look like Marxists. But I give you the latest from the Harvard Crimson:

Waving rainbow banners, American flags, and signs that displayed messages such as “God Strongly Dislikes Hate” and “We’re Staying Gay, Sorry,” approximately 400 counter-protestors waited for the arrival of the Westboro Baptist Church at Cambridge Rindge and Latin School last Friday morning.

At 11:24 a.m., six members of the anti-gay religious organization—including a 15-year-old girl and an 8-year-old boy—finally appeared, entering the area the Cambridge Police had designated for their protest. From the other side, separated by two fences and a neutral zone, the counter-protestors began chanting loudly, drowning out the church group’s words and songs.

Last month, the Kansas-based Westboro Baptist Church, whose nationwide picketing activities against homosexuality have earned them a “hate group” designation, announced their plans to protest the high school’s gay-straight alliance, Project10East. Since then, the school had worked with the mayor’s office and the police department to determine an appropriate response.

When the day finally arrived on March 13, the protests engendered an ironic consequence: although they propounded a divisive message, their effect on the community was decidedly uniting.

Good for Cambridge—one of the country’s greatest towns, I think—but I do think it’s worth calling out these nutters on the obvious unconscionable nature of attacking high-school kids. There are a lot of people who hold homophobic views that I find disgusting and repugnant, but they have the right to express their opinions. I’m left wondering, though, whether it’s acceptable to express one’s right to free speech by harassing high-school GSAs. I don’t know. There’s something deeply nauseating about the whole thing.

But yeah. Good for Cambridge for being awesome.

Grade Inflation

There’s a fascinating article at Inside Higher Ed today about grade inflation, in which all sorts of disturbing trends are bandied about: at Brown, for example, the majority of undergraduate grades were As. That’s just not right. Princeton gets a shoutout in the article (yay!) for its grade deflation policy, which has encouraged professors and departments to be conscious of using a wider portion of the grading scale, and suggests that departments should shoot for a long-term average of awarding As to 35% of students. But 35%? Even that’s not enough.

I’m a hard-liner about grading. I believe something that, in my experience, is rarely practiced in universities: I believe that As should be really fucking hard to come by. Granted, despite the highly inflated grades of my high school career, I’m not really getting As now—I’m more of an A-/B+ kind of gal. But that’s beside the point. We should not be living in a world where the majority of students at an Ivy League institution (Brown, I’m looking at you) are getting As. Not only is that not sending a very good educational message to students about how well they’re doing, it just furthers this stereotype about how elitist, how entitled, how privileged, Ivy-League students are. To bring this all back to myself in a totally privileged way, this is one reason why I’m embarrassed, sometimes, to tell people I go to Princeton. It conjures up images of these lazy entitled kids sitting around doing nothing and just profiting off their privilege.

And there’s maybe a little bit of substance to that stereotype in this case. Because you know who isn’t being affected by the grade inflation trend? Community colleges. The study that led to all the data about four-year universities also found that, if anything, community-college professors have become tougher graders in recent years—and interviews with community-college professors seem to suggest that their students prefer such a system. It’s a far cry from my anecdotal evidence at Princeton, where virtually every student I’ve talked to hates the grade deflation policy. It’s all about them, and how their As are not only their right, but a necessity for law school or business school or med school or the job market.

But I have no sympathy for this perspective. Sitting right now in a cafe on-campus, drinking my $1.50 cup of coffee and typing on my MacBook, I think that the very least I can do is try to work as hard as I can, to somehow be deserving of all this privilege bestowed upon me, and to become educated and intelligent enough that I can somehow give back to the system that’s giving me this. I’m an academic brat. I’ve grown up in this system and it’s my home, and I still want it to mean something. I would like to know that three-and-a-bit years from now, the piece of paper Princeton gives me actually has some significance, and isn’t just a receipt for $200,000.

On a related note, I was just talking online to a friend who’s studying nuclear engineering at another university. He was showing me a graph he’d produced for his schoolwork that I certainly didn’t understand, but I couldn’t help feeling a little guilty about my liberal-arts education. “I love how your schoolwork matters in the real world,” I said. And as long as my B.A. isn’t going to be contributing anything to resolving the energy crisis, well, I might as well at least get grades that are appropriately evaluative of the intellectual masturbation that I do. You know?

I am sick and tired of second-class citizenship

This afternoon, I had my discussion section (Princeton, you might recall from previous posts, calls them “preceptorials,” or “precepts”) for my gender and sexuality class. We were talking about one of the earliest gay rights movements, the “homophile” movement of the 1950s and ’60s. Fifty years ago, organizations such as the Mattachine Society reached out to gay and lesbian Americans—particularly in California and New York, but all over the country as well—and preached a gospel of equal rights. Different activists and different organizations disagreed as to what the best strategy was to achieve this end, but the homophile community was focused on fighting back against discriminatory government policies that drove gay people out of jobs and society and denied them any legal recognition.

Well, times haven’t changed all that much. Even as my precept was discussing the Senate report on “Employment of Homosexuals and Other Sex Perverts in Government,” the California Supreme Court was hearing arguments in the suit against California’s Proposition 8. Civil rights lawyers argued that the ballot initiative, which amended the state constitution to declare same-sex marriage illegal, was an unconstitutional amendment, and thus should be invalidated. The other side, led by Pepperdine Law School dean Kenneth Starr, argued that the “will of the people” in passing Prop. 8 cannot be questioned. Also up for discussion is whether same-sex marriages that took place between May 15, when marriage was legalized, and November 5, when Prop. 8 passed, will remain valid. The lives of all the couples who were married in that window are now in legal limbo. We will have to wait 90 days to see what the court decides about both Prop. 8 as a whole and the associated issue of the already-married, and it’s presently quite unclear how the court will rule.

What maddens me about all of this is that things have not changed that much. LGBT rights advocates are still trying to persuade federal and state governments that LGBT Americans are entitled to the same rights as straight Americans. Government seems to either not understand the nature of homosexuality—as it clearly didn’t in the ’50s—or to simply be unwilling to accept that gays are people too. I don’t know what it is. I can’t understand them. To be perfectly honest, I simply can’t view folks who want to deny LGBT people civil rights with any sort of reasoned fairness anymore. I just want to bang my head against the wall in frustration.

While things are certainly better for the LGBT community than they were 50 years ago, the ramifications of the institutionalized hatred for the queer population that was de rigeur then still pervade our society. LGBT folks can’t serve in the military. Gay men can’t give blood. There is no federal law protecting folks from being fired on the basis of sexual orientation. Most strikingly to most Americans, same-sex marriage is illegal in 48 states and the District of Columbia, and on a federal basis as well—and with that comes the loss to LGBT couples of all the social and economic benefits that marriage brings. And the problems extend farther than the legal sphere. Queer teens are at a far higher risk for suicide than their straight peers, and homophobic bullying and slurs are commonplace in the public school system. It is challenging on both a legal and a social basis for LGBT parents to raise their children. Transgender and gender-variant folks most often can’t get the support they need to live as who they are. I could go on and on and on.

Some folks argue that Americans are more comfortable with the idea of homosexuality than they were back in the day, thanks to Will and Grace, Ellen DeGeneres, and Rachel Maddow. Some queer folks look around them and say, “I’m not being harrassed; I have a job; I have friends and a community; I’m not living a double life. Things aren’t that bad.” Well, they kind of are. As far as the state is concerned, LGBT people do not exist. And you know what? That’s a problem. Even if focusing on marriage rights isn’t your thing, you have to admit that there are a lot of things shitty about being an LGBT person in America today. There are a lot of things that must be changed. The slowness with which the gay rights movement has progressed in 50 years is a sad thing, and so now we need to get out there and shake things up.

Folks who read this blog might well wonder why I’m so single-minded about LGBT issues. I guess I’m as self-interested as anyone else. As an LGBT American, I am sick and tired of being a second-class citizen. I want my kids to have the knowledge that their mom and their family are treated just the same as any other American family. And I fully intend to do what I can to make that happen.

Poignance

The Washington Post has a new column called “Stopped Presses,” announcing the papers that have closed. Topping the list, of course, is the Rocky Mountain News, whose front page, graced with a picture of the empty newsroom, makes me feel a little choked up. I mourn the sickness of journalism, not just because I fear I won’t have a job if I decide to go that route. It’s hard to confront the death of cultural institutions. And I can’t help but wonder how long it will be before the WaPo has to add itself to its own list.